Hello again lovelies! 

I did one of these check ins back in August, so I just wanted to take the time to check in on everyone again! I know this whole year has been insane; but I know that a lot of good has happened too! So, here is my challenge for you along with Thanksgiving being this month : 


Tell me how you've been! What's going on, how are you truly, do you need help with anything or just someone to listen? 
AND 
Tell me one thing that you are thankful for or something that makes you smile- one positive thing. 

I'll start! 

So, I don't have too much to update as I am lucky enough to work remotely and Steph is still plugging along as she works with animals at a research center. Our family is doing well enough. I'm getting better at my tarot readings! And we've got all of our Christmas presents sorted. So - I'm thankful for all of that, because I know that many others are not in the same position as me. 
Please know that I am ALWAYS here for you! You can message me privately here, on facebook, on instagram, snapchat... you name it, I've got it and it's always an open door/open ear! 

Well that sounds wonderful, Aoi! I'm happy for you! Yay for new cars and getting to go on holiday! 

Well - this time change is really messing with me.. I vote next time change, we just *dont* lol 

How is everyone doing?! 

I bought a house on the day of daylight savings time. Word of advice: don't do that. xD 

NOT a morning person PLUS allllll the new house paperwork = dead pants. very dead. xD plz send prayers and/or all the good vibes. 

Yikes - I remember that paperwork. We just refinanced and oi... so many papers to sign! I feel your pain!  

But yay for a new house!!! 

I won't go into details-- because I annoy myself with it.

But, I think I am finally getting better ^_^

And that is totally fine, Lacey! You don't have to share anything you don't feel comfortable with! 

I am glad to hear that you are doing better though! 

why do people who have never experinced depression or ptsd or anxiety attacks think we can just "you know get over it

Just had a horrible experince with someone who told me that. i had to walk away.. i wasnt very happy

*hugs lafitte* i'm so sorry that someone invalidated you like that.. it's unforgiveable. i wish things were so easy to just 'get over'. they aren't. sometimes i think that people don't really understand the magnitude or the affect that words can have.

if it was so simple to get over, people wouldn't have the problems they have or suffer how they do. :/

my own check in... eh, mh isn't great. i'm trying tho. it's all i can do, but equally, nothing wrong with taking time out just for myself- same goes for everyone else - self care is so important!

My husband deals with anxiety and attacks. He got it from his mother who also picked it up from her mother. Its not fun. Often times, i have to immediately drop whatever I'm doing and give him a hug to help him through the attacks.

Thankfully, he doesn't have the depression and ptsd side. But I feel for ya, fitte.

I think Swirly and Nad had great input! They are both so right! 

I'm so sorry that you had to experience that Lafi! When people don't have mental illness themselves .. they will never fully understand. I struggle with anxiety too and the amount of times I've heard "it's fine, you're fine, you have nothing to freak out about" are too many to count.
Just know that your feelings are valid and you are not alone! 

Swirly - I'm here for you if you need someone to talk to! I get that. 

Been aware of this post for a while but haven't wanted to post... I don't like to air my laundry but I just feel I need to get it off my chest...

Working in A&E as a newly qualified, literally on the front line has really affected me. I'm tired, stressed and cry most of the time. My mum and brother both have their own mental health issues, with my brother rocking up to my resus department recently whilst on shift with a failed attempt :( 

Only my husband knows that I've been on antidepressants and anxiety meds for the last 8 months which I've recently had upped... I'm feeling a little better in myself but I still feel guilty that I've distanced myself from both mum & brother. I feel really guilty but I know in my heart, I've done it for this right reason to focus on me :( 

I don't really have a lot of family that can be supportive because of my mum & brother. I'm mainly relying on my husband, a few work colleagues and two special ladies (you know who you are :p) to get me throughout the day! I'm working on myself, I really am trying...

You have been City'd xD

Love you to the moon and back Rosa

Rosa is awesome, Rosa is fine, Rosa didn't write this...

Subrosa - I cannot even begin to imagine that stress you've been under! But I'm proud of you for being brave enough to share! That's huge. So I think that's something that should be noted. I agree with you - focusing on your own mental health is important. "You cannot give from an empty cup" - I think that's the saying.