sooooo I just need to vent and get this off my chest if anyone wants to read about it. Today my day was going awesome until it wasn't... So for the past 2 months maybe more, I have been dealing with a grade 9 boy that hasn't been particularly nice to me and today was just the absolute WORST!! yesterday he had called me a fat ass and an asshole and just not very nice words had been said. :/ 

I've told the principle (quite a few times about it), but everytime I go and do that, the boy just screams and swears at me on the bus and in the hallways, and then he just begins screaming and swearing at me and I just stand there and take it because I just don't know what do to. I don't want to say anything back or to him so I just take it all in and I guess that's what I get for trying to be nice to someone that clearly doesn't deserve it.

I broke down crying today just before my baking class and I've just been kinda feeling down and not really feeling like my usual self. 

I just don't understand why people gotta be so mean? *sigh*

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OMG! People are so mean! What gives a boy the right to call you such horrible names!? You for one are beautiful inside and out. Boys can be so cruel. It's not right. Have you told someone about it? A teacher, his parents, the principal? Oak, that is not cool and far from being nice. 

It is unfortunate that so many teenagers decide to be cruel.

I am sorry you had to deal with this, Oak.

Sounds awful hun, I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. 

I wonder if there is something going on with him at home, or emotionally? Kids can be so cruel, and so often it comes from a place of pain or fear.

It's shocking to me that even after you've gone to speak to the Principal, nothing has changed. You shouldn't be subjected to that, it's so detrimental to your health and wellbeing. 

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I'm so sorry Oak. You did nothing to provoke this, you don't deserve this. Sounds like a very unhappy child that also needs to learn some discipline and respect! :(

I'm not sure how things work in your area but here that is grounds for a meeting with the guardian(s) of the child and principle, you can't go on like this. It's abusive and should not be tolerated. If the principle doesn't want to deal with it, go to the disctrict. I'd keep going to the next one in power until someone does something.

If there's someone above the Principal, then go to them. Don't let the little shitbag OR the Principal get away with it.

I'm sorry you have to deal with that. I agree with Skelletor... maybe he has something going on at home but that doesn't give him the right to be an asshole to you by any means. Shoot, maybe another way to stop his is get your parents to tell the principle you want to speak to his parents... maybe it's something his parents can adress... It could be a lot of things.... ALSOOOOO

I know it sounds SUPER weird, but there could be a chance that he likes you too... sometimes when a boy likes a female they are such little assholes... I don't know why they think that's attractive or anything or why it's that way but even if he did... don't entertain the thought of being with someone who will talk to treat you like that. 

Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful, you are loved, you are smart. Then go to school, walk up to that jack monkey and tell him that he has NO reason to speak to you especially in that manner, and if he doesn't - you'll get a restraining put on him. Idk about your school, but our highschool has sheriffs that roamed the school grounds. Perhaps you could speak with one of them if that's an option! Stay strong. Don't let them push you around! In on ear and out the other!

I'm quite sorry to hear this, as well, and I was thinking the same thing as Dakiti. I used to be bullied by a guy all throughout high school (grades 9-12, for me) and I think he had a crush on me. That fact, though, doesn't excuse his behavior or make it right.

If I could go back and give my younger self advice, though, I'd say when ignoring him doesn't seem to be working, surround yourself with people who build you up more often than put you down. Let them bolster your confidence and give you feedback of the truth when he is intent on insinuating lies. Support can be friends or teachers at school, your parents/other members of your family or community. Maybe reach out to your guidance counselor for some extra adult support at school. Adults were all young once so it can be helpful to glean their insight. 

Another thing I'd try, if I weren't so painfully timid in my school days, is "killing him with kindness" meaning try talking to him expressing a wish to be friends or share a pack of chewing gum with him or something. A lot of kids like to make up the meanest stories about other kids whom they don't know or find intimidating. For me, in school, it was because I rarely spoke outside of a small friend circle and was so, so shy and insecure. I had kids call me nasty names because they didn't understand me nor really take the time to get to know me. Kindness doesn't always work out for every one. He may think you are too weird in your efforts to be kind and decide to leave you alone because he isn't getting the anger or tears of the reaction he seeks. Then again, you may meet someone really cool in the process. Who knows?